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It feels like no matter where I turn some septuagenarian, or older, is making life miserable for myself and others. Usually these are older white Christian conservatives, obsessed with a delusional sense of reality that no longer has a basis in fact, or perhaps never did.

There is a disproportionate amount of wealth concentrated in the older generation and those who will inherit it will probably be even worse with that money than the last generation. Certainly we see evidence of that already, anyone in their 30's who has parents who help them out VS those who don't have that have radically different outcomes. For some reason those lucky enough to come from good families ascribe laziness and bad attitude to those who don't have the family support, as if they are somehow enjoying "self made success" while mummy does their laundry for them.

No generation previous needed this kind of assistance well into adulthood, but this infantilisation of working adults has happened because of the hoarding of wealth, refusing to pass on the torch in workplaces and just blocking change for the sake of stoking petty politics. Most of us will never own our own home but all the politicians want to talk about is whether it's OK to dehumanise trans people or not.

I'm 36 this year. For most of my teens I thought there'd be some kind of tipping point where the conservative boomers would fuck off or at least let the next generation step in, but that hasn't happened. Back in the 1990's you could be a girl and wear jeans and be empowered, now this is considered some kind of woke statement. As if we recently invented this idea of women and men being equal.

The faces of my two dogs, my cat and my husband are all that keep me going. Knowing they need me gives me just enough to get out of bed in the morning and start moving... but I'm struggling to do even that without having a breakdown. My husband and I have medical expenses we can't afford and are borrowing money to survive right now. I run my own business and just feel this immense pressure on my shoulders, that again is compounded by how unfair the world is right now.

Anyone got any advice for coping with this late stage capitalist hellscape?

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[–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 11 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (8 children)

Stop reading the news.

I’m serious. Just stop. It’s ALL biased to one side or the other so whether you’re on the left, or the right- you’re going to get hate and negativity thrown at you. Also, know that it has ALWAYS been this way. It’s just that it’s difficult to not see it all happening because of the internet- which brings me back to my original point.

STOP READING THE NEWS. Nothing good comes from it and your mental health isn’t a fair trade for staying up to date with the current dumbassery in politics.

[–] kwking13@lemm.ee 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Sticking your head in the sand is a great strategy for never helping to enact change. Knowledge is power, learn what you can.

[–] magnetosphere@kbin.social 11 points 10 months ago (2 children)

There’s a reasonable compromise to be had here.

To OP:

Take a temporary break from reading the news, for as long as you need. Your mental health is what’s most important.

When starting the news again, choose your sources carefully. Skip stories that will only serve to make you angry or sad. You’re not obligated to finish a story (or even a paragraph) if you sense it’s only contributing to your feelings of hopelessness. Remember that most publications are deliberately trying to cause a strong emotional response. Read stories that will provide useful information, and relate to things you can act on.

[–] ihavenopeopleskills@kbin.social 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Foot stomp: OP, YOU AREN'T OBLIGATED. You might owe your creditors, but you DO NOT owe one single, solitary iota to anyone who writes news.

You are on a Reddit clone. You have your feed. Anything important will appear there.

We're all pulling for ya.

[–] sturlabragason@lemmy.world 2 points 10 months ago

https://sturlabragason.github.io/blog/2023/06/15/Curated-News.html

I got tired of reading news which is just reposted Instagram stories from garbage people.

[–] Pratai@lemmy.ca 9 points 10 months ago

Willingly turning from bullshit and negativity is not sticking one’s head in the sand.

Or do you feel Buddhists are sticking their heads in the sand?

One needs not gorge themselves on the negativity happening around them in order to get along.

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