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I have more than one partner, I met them both in hobby spaces, not dating spaces. Dating online has become easier in some aspects and harder in others.
Over my experience, the apps have shittified too and are basically useless for connection. One person I met on an MMO, the other I met in an online support group.
We stay together because we love each other but we are also each other's chosen family. We have a deep respect and friendship before hand.
We're also all also neurodivergent as shit and queer so we just don't have any real games and talk bluntly with one another, for good or ill.
One relationship is over ten years old the other is almost five. It was about finding who wants the same thing in life and it really required being able to be honest with myself about who I am and what I offer.
It isn't easy. We are way past new relationship energy. But the work in a relationship that is worth is never feels like a poor investment.