I do most of my discourse on Beehaw which is protected in many ways. When I used reddit I would often have a comment typed out ready to post and think better of it since I knew it would only drive dismissive and antagonistic responses of the stupidest kind. It may be because of the protections or it may be because of the smaller community but I find a lot less posturing and a lot more actual conversation since I've been using this platform. This is what keeps me here rather than reddit. It might be worth engaging in conversations you wouldn't have on reddit when you're interested.