Ask Lemmygrad

I badly want to have (adopt) children. Baby fever has had me in its claws for years and years. The time isn't right yet in terms of my own emotional development and degree of rootedness. I also haven't found the right person or people to co-parent with. My boyfriend cried the other night because we could have been good parents together, but we're incompatible in some other long-term ways which make that unadvisable.

It's not for lack of wanting. I think there are more leftists with principled hang-ups around having kids that they don't feel able to work through under capitalism, but ultimately ours is an ideology of love that extends to the future and seems to me pro-children.