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[–] lowleveldata@programming.dev 10 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Would it be better if they say "Sorry I'm just a bitch"?

[–] VikingHippie@lemmy.wtf 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah. While still not good, at least toxic self-deprecation/self-critical fatalism is more sympathetic than complete abdication of responsibility 🤷

[–] danc4498@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Nah, there’s no self deprecation in that. It’s more like they’re just rationalizing their shitty behavior ahead of time by pretending they have a characteristic that’s entirely out of their control.

“Sorry I’m just [choosing to be] a bitch” is more accurate.

[–] VikingHippie@lemmy.wtf 1 points 1 year ago

I'm with you most of the way (hence why I used words like "not good" and "toxic"), but who said anything about ahead of time?

[–] HikingVet@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 year ago

Worked with a couple people over the years who straight out said they are hard to deal with. Had much less problems with them than those who said "they could work with anyone"

[–] EherVielleicht@feddit.de 3 points 1 year ago

More realistic.

"Look, I'm not good with people, especially when I find them annoying. So if you think I'm a bitch it's just because I don't like you 💖"