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[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Pretty sure that's the biggest reason why zoomers turned into such prudes

[–] Zeshade@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel completely disconnected... do you mean that zoomers are prude compared to previous generations (I didn't know that) and that's because of the fear of getting caught on camera for making saucy jokes/comments?

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Essentially, yes. Not wholly due to that, of course, but that's a powerful push at an impressionable age.

[–] Zeshade@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago
[–] Epicurus0319@sopuli.xyz 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Gen Z statistically is having much less sex than previous generations. But more importantly, attitudes towards sex are much more negative. Being "ace" is cool. "Consent" has been taken to a ridiculous extreme, to the point that women (it's always women...note the insidious underlying conservative tones) are seen as unable to consent to sex with men under almost any circumstances.

It's an unholy union of the misogyny and repressive attitudes of the Right, combined with misandry and cancel culture of the Left. It takes some of the worst parts of both.

Plus it capitalizes on the current "pedophiles around every corner" moral panic.

Look around Lemmy and you'll see it a lot. Being a normal horny teenager is deeply uncool right now.

[–] wishthane@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah I don't think this is completely true. I'm not in Gen Z but close enough and I do see that they're a lot more accepting of a broad spectrum of attitudes toward sex, and that includes asexuality, but I think they're also quite accepting of people being quite the opposite of that. I think where they get more weirded out and are willing to say so is when people - and because of patriarchy, it's almost always men, but not always toward women - make sexual comments about real people who aren't explicitly inviting that. That's something that has been declining in acceptability over time anyway and Gen Z just more commonly takes it a bit farther, and has a better understanding of consent. But I've really never seen this "women aren't capable of consenting" thing outside of a strawman for people who want to pretend it exists by misinterpreting real criticism.

[–] klemptor@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

make sexual comments about real people who aren't explicitly inviting that

Listen, if cat-calling and unwanted comments go away because of Gen Z, they'll have my undying gratitude. As it stands I'm just waiting to age into invisibility.

[–] wishthane@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

It probably won't, but I think it will get better.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

No one explicitly says it, because then it could be called out as misogyny.

It's usually dressed up as "men are sexual predators / patriarchy power imbalance / anything cishet and ESPECIALLY cishet male is just uncool / etc"

It's not an explicit proscriptive thing. It's just that if you are a sexually liberated straight woman, that's nebulously Bad.

[–] artaxthehappyhorse@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There's definitely been a sort of.. new flavor of conservatism spring up on the left. I would say it was more mid and late era millennials who started really demanding people fall in line though. Gen-Z just sorta inherited the mess. I expect there to be a rebound effect here soon, as this over-sensitivity/over-accommodation/censorship culture is unworkable long term. We're monkeys wearing business suits inside a violent exploitive natural world. Everything we do harms someone somewhere.

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 0 points 1 year ago (2 children)

How do you transfer what you wrote to people having more or less intercourse? Where is the connection?

[–] artaxthehappyhorse@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

General social dysfunction leading to people being scared of each other, or just giving up on human interaction because of the risks or frustrations we're creating.

[–] Someology@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Without getting a signed legal consent document in advance, how do you as a young person prove that any sex act was consensual? You can't, usually. This can breed crippling fear of real life encounters.

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You believe people of Gen Z have less sex because there is crippling fear of having sex without a legal consent document?

[–] Someology@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The political/sociological climate tends to affect these things. Combine that with the super easy access to porn and other online options, along with financial strain, and it begins to look like a compelling set of sociological pressures. I haven't gone out an done a research study, but it seems like a possible train of thought.

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 0 points 1 year ago

I also wonder how much effect an abundance of other options to entertain yourself in general has on the frequency of sex.

For Germany there are statistics that children and teenagers go out less and have smaller friend groups for various reasons. One discussed reason is a shift to favour solitary activities at home (video games, YouTube, Netflix, etc.).

I don't see why the same wouldn't be true for young adults and adults as well. And then they turn on Tinder and hope that somehow a sex partner falls out of the clouds and doesn't mind their untrained social skills.

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Can you please link to these statistics? Because I only find news articles on web sites with no statistics either, just various degrees of sensationalism without anything backing up their claims with concrete numbers or how and whom they surveyed.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You do know that Google results are different, for different people, right?

This also all seems to regard the US only, OP made it seem like this was a general trend.

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

The Juvenile Law Center is an American institution that deals with American juveniles.