After reading many comments I think my 'outrage' came, as it often does, from misunderstanding. Also, because when singing up most people say don't overthink it, it doesn't matter much. But now I'm seeing that it does matter to sign up for an instance with like minded people. As I see more of what seems to be the drive behind beehaw, it doesn't really resonate with what I want, but that doesn't make it wrong. It is ok for that group of people. We just need to make sure that communities of general interest that were taking off there because they were one of the largest instances are also present in a more open and accessible place, so we are not restricted to collaborate.