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Imagine actually being scared for your safety because your mom saw you watching porn. As long as I wasn't like 10 years old, my parents would've probably just laughed at me and told me to keep it to myself.
It's pretty sad that some people actually live like that, though.
My mom found porn on my computer in high school so my parents decided it would be a good idea to sit the whole family down and talk about what she found and what new restrictions the Internet would have for us all.
Turns out that restrictions on porn for high schoolers don't work and just make them more... creative. That was my first taste of learning about IT haha so maybe I should actually thank them.
My mother told me it is okay and totally normal to be interested in these things but it is important that I understand the difference between fiction like this and reality.
Now I sit at work googling character ideas for dnd so it is safe to say, this did not work out
Props to her for handling it the right way though.
Well, I had that same talk with my mom. To this day I can't stand how fake porn feels. Damn you mother!
If you want actual fake porn: !aigen@lemmynsfw.com
You know who the AI needs to train it on how to make fingers?
Hand fetishists.
Yea, reality is the one that sucks.
And it sucks real good, too
So something that always bothered me: do we legally have to put restrictions on their access? Like I clearly can't claim ignorance to knowing how its possible, and since my son is a minor, it's illegal to provide access to the content.
I would rather put up layers that he figures out how to work around since that's how I learned so much too.
That's actually an interesting question. As far as I can tell, while it is illegal to show minors porn, I don't think parents are on the hook of their children access it. Common sense would argue that a parent can install all the filters they can, but kids are crafty and nothing will stop a teenage boy from taking care of business, though I'm sure some religious state reps/senators would say otherwise. But, to your point, I don't believe parents incur liability from their kids looking up boobs online, especially without their knowledge. Now if a sicko parent is actively showing kids naughty videos, that definitely is a crime.
https://www.hg.org/legal-articles/showing-porn-to-a-minor-is-it-a-crime-48946
Not every parent knows how to enforce that kind of control, and no matter what you do, there will be loopholes.
Bajillion porn sites blocked? Oh look, he's now getting his porn off a Telegram or Discord channel! Blocked those, too? "Hey, school friend, can you email me some stuff? Yeah, my parents blocked nearly everything, only email opens"
As the other poster said, the only thing parents should not do is facilitate access, encourage or show porn to their kids, for obvious reasons. Ideally, parents should educate their kids, "Yeah, that stuff is for show, actual sex is very different. Work your cardio and don't skip leg day if you wanna impress your partner when you start having sex. Use a fucking condom, too."
Painfully awkward as it might be I can maybe respect the idea of discussion with the child, but why the fuck did she make everyone else party to it? She could have kept it between you and her or maybe the another significant parental figure. Like, was this discussion had in with and in front of your siblings? Fucking mortifying.
The thing I’d be more concerned with is establishing unreal expectations around sex based on overproduced porn. Like, it’s not a normal expectation to fold someone into a pretzel and jackhammer their ass for 30 minutes.
That's just a normal Tuesday.
That's the difference between normal vanilla procreation and kinky fetishes, an important distinction
What difference is that exactly? That question seems more helpful than casual slut shaming.
Lol jfc, not sure how you got slut shaming out of that. For some people that's their jam, don't be jelly
Speak for yourself
You clearly haven't talked to Asians about how strict their parents can be. I've heard of guys getting their asses whopped for slacking off in studies. The same applies to some black parents too.
10 year olds should be allowed to watch porn. If you're seeking it out, it's fine (as opposed to people showing you). That's how you learn about your body.
Only America has a weird obsession over sex = bad. In Europe, they have shows dedicated to dating based on if you like their genitals.
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt5969074/
https://www.imdb.com/title/tt27442417/
10 years should not have to watch porn. The problem is that it is often the only "sex education" they'll have. But it's a terrible example of sexual life.
Sex Ed should be about pleasure, sane sex life, type of relation, etc. As well as the usual risks and disease presented, so teenagers can understand the difference between performance and reality
I never said they should HAVE to watch porn. I said they should be ALLOWED.
Your comment just goes to show further how Americans view sex as bad lmao.
Nothing wrong with porn. Not my fault Americans think that porn is real. Bet you also think horror movies are real, too, eh? All those innocent people killed!
You do realize that amateur porn exists, right? Where people film themselves with their iPhone. None of the production shit.
The US absolutely has an obsession with sex = bad but it also has an obsession with sex = money and power. I don't have kids, but if I did I wouldn't let them watch pornhub porn. It doesn't show healthy relationships, it's mostly just step-daughter porn. So while I agree that children shouldn't be sheltered from sex, they should be sheltered from Pop-Porn.