About the pedestal thing: if you look closely you will most likely see many things that are not perfect about that person be it looks or otherwise. I have put people on pedestals that were neither really good looking, nor good people, they just seemed like that superficially.

[–] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

I have put people on pedestals that were neither really good looking, nor good people, they just seemed like that superficially.

Same. As I got to know them, I learned that it was all a facade. They practiced that look, both in trying to seem really attractive and also trying to seem like they weren't trying to be attractive, when in reality, their lives revolved entirely around that false image.