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Everywhere you browse, people have such strong opinions about everything and are so toxic or extremely negative. You start playing a game, want to check the forums or something and most of the posts are people being mean to each other. You open social media to keep in touch with people that you'd like to maintain a certain level of contact and there's always some people that are always complaining about every single thing.

I see myself more and more closing myself into a bubble which makes me appreciate Beehaw much more. I know I am guilty of being taken away by the toxicity and sometimes replying things I wouldn't be proud of but since I joined Beehaw I see myself policing myself more and more focused on being better.

Just a quick rant, I currently started playing Baldur's Gate 3 and I am honestly pissed off on the fact people can't give feedback without being rude or "gamers" just shitting on developers because they are stans of another game. I wanted to be active on the forum and comment on bugs and such because I want the game to be better but it is so depressing reading people being awful so often.

Why are we so shitty to each other? I'm so tired.

Edit: Pardon me if I used weird terms or grammar errors, english isn't my first language

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[–] Jho@beehaw.org 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I honestly believe that modern social media and "the algorithm" has conditioned us into this kind of behaviour.

It's already quite easy to forget we are interacting with other humans when we are behind screens and keyboards. This has always been an issue on the internet.

But when the internet is fuelled by algorithms which only want engagement, it is going to encourage behaviour which drives this. This is often extreme, sensational opinions and language. I feel like the algorithm constantly tried to show me content that would upset me. "What's hot" is basically always "what's controversial", and controversy drives engagement. It certainly engaged me and I've had to make a conscious effort to just rip myself away from it.

Furthermore, social media doesn't encourage long-form discussion, and it also conditions us to seek immediate gratification. Twitter especially wants us to summarize our points in just a few words, which doesn't lend itself to mature, thought-out discussions.

I often make long posts here on Lemmy which I often feel aren't really read by people or responded to because TL;DR. Me writing out paragraphs of analysis about Starfield isn't going to get as many responses as someone simply saying "Starfield is the game of the century" or "Starfield is dogshit in every way".

[–] Auzy@beehaw.org 6 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Lots of Rage bait out there, or people purposely posting things and making it sound slightly wrong, knowing people will comment too

[–] Templa@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

One of the things that really pisses me off is the current state of Steam. People realized they can bait to get lots of clown awards, which rewards them with a lot of points. On one hotfix update post, someone got over 200 clown awards.

[–] jarfil@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

TL;DR... /jk

However, there are two sides to every coin: thought-out discussions are one side, extensive rambling diatribes are the other. There is value in being concise in one's arguments, when possible without compromising precision.

In any case, even scientific papers have an abstract, extensive laws have a rationale, so IMHO it makes sense for a series of paragraphs to have a TL;DR, or some other way of structuring the content —maybe through headers, or highlighting key elements in bold, or incises like this one— in order to let the reader skip over what they're not interested in.

It's good to have markdown, ~~Twitter~~ 𝕏 could try some.

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 3 points 1 year ago

It’s already quite easy to forget we are interacting with other humans when we are behind screens and keyboards

I honestly hate that people do this. Maybe its because I work online in customer service and I chat with people online so I always know that I'm talking to a real person - but even before I worked online, I always assumed I was talking to a real person on the other end.

It's wild to me that people become so incredibly inconsiderate that they don't even think they're talking to a human and instead interpret it as "oh I'm just arguing an idea" yeah, you're arguing an idea with a HUMAN.

Sometimes I catch people doing that because they'll respond to me like I'm someone else and I have to be like, hey no, I'm not that person, I'm my own person and you are in fact talking to me now. A person who will react to things being said. Cause you know, human.