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Lemmings, why did you decide to never confess to someone that you liked so much? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by Asudox@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] dosse91@lemmy.trippy.pizza 59 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (7 children)

Various reasons over the years:

Don't want to risk making the workplace unpleasant (twice)
Wrong race that would upset my parents (twice)
Lives too far away (twice)
Age gap (once)
Me being exposed to porn at a very young age (first time I was 3 or 4, and I grew up with unsupervised internet access) gave me a completely broken sexuality and I don't want to bring other people into this mess
Feeling inadequate, ugly or uninteresting (I used to be very fat so you can imagine how I grew up)
Feeling that my interest in the other person is not genuine and that I only see her as a sexual object

In the end, I'm 32 and single, my friends are getting married and starting their own families and I have this dreadful feeling that I missed out on something important in life, I drown this feeling in work, video games and all sorts of projects, but when I'm alone and I can't think of anything to do and I start thinking about the future, I want to kill myself.

[–] steeev@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

I’m 37 and am just now starting to have some of the best sex of my life. Still single, but feeling more and more confident in myself and seeing major changes in how I approach my own sexuality, what a relationship is, and what I would want out of one.

Therapy was paramount.

There is no shame in getting help for yourself. Get the help you need and take time doing it. Confidence adds to sexiness.

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