I get the "haha" of this particular search getting reported on...but I think that this sort of surveillance is definitely stepping into creepy territory that will end up doing more harm than good.

There were definitely web searches I performed about topics back when I was younger that I would never want my parents to know. When you live in an oppressive household where you are taught never to think outside of the box or be anything your parents don't want you to be, having the internet available is supposed to be a path to liberation.

If they want to set up filters that block certain results, fine. But tattling is just unethical, especially if the child does not know their search history is being monitored by their parents.

[–] kameecoding@lemmy.world 39 points 1 year ago (3 children)

if only there was a Black mirror episode about the dangers of being an overbearing parent.

[–] ParsnipWitch@feddit.de 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

The thing is, parents get incredibly conflicted messages about this. When a child DOES end up looking at something bad parents get all the blame for not supervising and controlling their child and get called abusive. If they supervise and control their child they get called helicopter parents or abusive as well.

And it's not only regarding the internet. When parents let their children roam, for example, the neighborhood and something bad happens, the parents get the blame and called abusive for letting their child roam the neighborhood. If they control outdoors time for they child, they are abusive again.

It literally doesn't matter what you do as a parent, a lot of people will call you a bad parent or an abuser for it. I believe it is one reason why some people don't want to have children at all. It's basically an impossible task.

[–] xyproto@programming.dev -1 points 1 year ago

When a child DOES end up looking at something bad parents get all the blame for not supervising and controlling their child and get called abusive

Not everywhere. This is typical for the US.

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