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[โ€“] RoundSparrow@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

is that really that hard to explain?

to you, yes. As I don't think in flippant attempts to trivialize human beings and reduce things to simpleton answers for something they have struggled with each and every day of their life. It sure is easier to dehumanize me as you keep doing.

writing online is about the only thing in my life that I can do, despite the constant pain, and I'm near death. Once the writing goes, there is zero left, I'm not even really surviving.

Simon Baron-Cohen; July 1, 2003; "The Essential Difference: Male And Female Brains And The Truth About Autism", page 146 quote: "Another man with AS described his life in a very graphic way: 'Every day is like climbing Mount Everest in lead boots, covered in molasses. Every step in every part of my life is a struggle.'"

[โ€“] Piers@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

If it helps clarify things for you, the person you are arguing with doesn't understand what you are trying to say with regards to how autism informs your interactions with others online and is arguing against a point you aren't trying to make. They are however entirely too dug into arguing against that point to easily and effectively get them to understand what you are actually saying and respond to that without the baggage of already deciding that they entirely disagree with you to the point they think they are entitled to be rude to you because you don't agree with them.

The conversation you are in in this thread is more difficult than it ought to be and while some element of that may be due to your autism, there's also a lot of failures from the other side of it making the conversation harder than it should be. At this point you are not being treated kindly and respectfully by the other person (because they are frustrated and handling it poorly.) Better to just disengage with them and shrug it off as a misunderstanding and bad behaviour not of your making as best as you are able to do so.