If you try again, lay out your expectations as to how much attention you expect, as it seems as if there wasn't good communication on that and you committed more than they did. Poly and monogamy ultimately have the same largest hurldles: bad communication and bad actors.

[–] Default_Defect@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

We did. She approached me about dating and we talked for a while about expectations before really going for it, that's what made it hurt. I knew going in that I wouldn't be able to have her around as much as previous relationships, but the "expected time together" suddenly became none because she "wanted to focus on her career" but posted on facebook whenever she was with others, which was about as often as normal for her.

Edit- I think she just decided that her needs/wants changed and she just didn't want to hurt me by breaking up, but not doing that was just as bad.