Thanks for the insight. Truth is I still struggle with his passing. He had a great sense of humor and we knew we could make the most dark/twisted jokes and comments to one another. I kept thinking about him when I was dropping the subtle hanging comments to this other dude. I saw it as honoring what i loved best about the deceased but maybe I'm just having a hard time coping. Thanks again.

[–] Lemmylefty@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I can understand wanting to honor your friend, but by making his death the butt of the joke that’s a lot more collateral damage than you intended.

It might work out better if you make dark jokes that aren’t pointed AT your friend but are directed outward, with a “he’d like that” tacked on. That way, it highlights something you liked about him without hitting other people.

[–] PsychoNewt@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I get it. Again, thanks for taking the time to helping me to see a different perspective. I swear my social awkwardness (and lack of general awareness) will be the death of me.