ADHD

Alternatively:
"What's your name again?"
"T*********"
"Sorry, what?*
"Ti********"
😐

"(Okay. Okay, okay, okay, here goes.) Hey, I'm so sorry, I'm so very bad with names, what's yours again? (Gawd that was awful, but it's over, we did it, I'm so proud of us, we overcame our fear and.... FUCK what did they say?!)"

Constant issue for me. I realized how much of a relief it was the other day when someone asked my name again after being introduced 15 minutes earlier, I got a chance to ask them their again and I felt a little more human for a bit.

At least you remember to ask people for their name I had it happen that I didn't ask for someones name until I knew them for more than half a year

So this is dumb but I’ve been carrying around a little notebook to write random things down, and I’ve taken to recording names of new people I meet. Also people are way more forgiving of forgetting names and I’ve also accepted that people that aren’t are not worth being around anyway.

I find that repeating someones name after they introduce themselves greatly helps with remembering it.

I once had an acquaintance/friend for 4 years who told me their name when we first met. I immediately forgot it of course but managed to avoid referring to them by name the whole time and I only found out what it was again when I told them I was moving overseas and they gave me contact details to reach them after I moved. So funny suddenly achieving that 4 year long goal of one day figuring out what they were called like that. Of course, I lost the contact details and forgot their name immediately after that but on the day I was able to thank them using their name for the first time in years and it felt very satisfying.

There is a lumosity game about remembering names.

I played that game ONCE for about 15 minutes and since then I've been able to remember names 5x better than before.

There's no fundamental shift in memory capacity, the game just trains you to pay attention when someone says their name. After a few repetitions, it sticks.

Highly worth it. Though, now I remember names so good it freaks people out.

Why even ask for it when it's not like I will remember it anyways

of course, but I still am frustrated that this always happens

Anyone do a thing where to remember the name you mentally attach them to someone you already know. Then right on cue you can remember the link but not the name of the family member you linked them to.

I think this is not just an ADHD trait.

why does this always happen?? :(

whatever you say Toad!

But seriously: the majority of people have problems remembering names. You just have to become comfortable with the fact and maybe apologize upfront. People are not only understandable but relieved (because they too forgot your name while you were vocalizing it).

Sigh… more often that I could admit

I have a fun thing. I’ll meet a new coworker. Let’s call her Sara. I learn her name after a few days and say, “Hi Sara!” when I see them in the halls.

One day, I’m at the mall. This random person says, “Hi Kekahi!” And I say, “Hi… you!” It’s Sara.

They were out of place! I cannot be expected to recognize someone if I see them in a place where I don’t usually see them. That’s asking too much!

I have a very specific way of remembering names. I don't know if it will work for everybody but I find It works 95% of the time. When someone is being introduced to me I get the new person to tell me their name and then I get somebody else to introduce me then say their name back to them. Instead of just one memory pathway being built I have multiple ways at once.