It is fairly mild and not a big deal, but most people probably wouldn't want their 5 year old daughter saying it to their great aunt Mary.
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It's definitely not mild enough for a 14 year old to say in front of their teacher at school.
It is not an appropriate word to use when talking to a teacher, no. A "pretty mild" swearword is still a swearword.
Context matters, to your friends or friends parents, probably okay. To someone you should be showing respect like teachers, probably never going to go over well.
It was like this. I made a mistake in an excersize and said "oh crap". Although you are right not to say that to a teacher, but saying it the way I did should be fine, right?
More the location at that point, that’s schoolyard talk not classroom at that point. But out of earshot in the school yard too haha
Knowing that English is a second language for you, she's probably trying to help you!
Maybe assume that your English teacher knows a bit more about the language and how and when to use it than you.
It's a little extreme but not unheard of for folks to be upset with, especially in classroom settings.
you should avoid swearing at all in formal settings
Crap isn't swearing.
It is a little bit. It's not exactly not swearing
but is it exactly not not swearing?
Same realm as "Dang" and "Darn". Someone getting mad about it is just trying to tone police.
Nah, you're just gonna get pegged as someone with little language skills who has a bad attitude. It's one thing if you don't care but calling everything crap at work, especially if you have customers or a partner in the room absolutely makes a poor impression. You should really use it in a professional setting only when you've thought through the impact.
It's a slightly less harsh version of "shit". I don't know where you're from, but it's absolutely considered a swear word in Britain and much less tolerated than "dang" or "darn" lmao
Not sure what part of the UK you're from, but that's absolutely not the case (at least in the North West where I'm from).
Crap is a bit of a crude word, but I don't know anybody who would consider it being an actual swear word. For clarity, I'm using the definition of a swear word where it's something you'd have to censor on public air.
If someone said "dang" or "darn" around here, you'd get a raised eyebrow and everyone would just think you're from the US because we just don't use those words here.
It's a less vulgar version of shit. You wouldn't use it in an email, but when talking it generally isn't a big deal.
I wouldn't use it in formal conversation. It's not bad per se but it's something that has a negative connotation and you usually look for kinder language in that setting.
It's not a bad word, but it's not a good word either, is it?
It's always easier to replace a habit than it is to stamp it out, so I try to teach my kid age-appropriate cusses. He's five, so I encourage him to lean on Adventure Time-style creative un-curses, as:
"Finn, this is dirtballs."
"Aw figs."
"This is totally dumptrucks."
"What the lump?"
And the usual stuff like 'fiddlesticks' and 'dagnabbit' are reliable.
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I raised my children not on the word, but the intention of the word. When they were saying "crap you" they meant "fuck you", and once they were made aware of it they stopped (saying it in front of me, anyway lol). So be aware that people will pick up on the intention and not necessarily the word.
My brother and I kinda woke up to the ideology of intention with expletives back when we were coming out of college. We were raised not to swear, so we didn’t for the most part, but then we thought about intention and the true meaning and effect of words and we kinda decided that for us as adults who can read a room and understand intent, we didn’t care about swearing anymore. Most of our social settings it was fine and we knew when to stop for the people around us so they weren’t uncomfortable.
In the US (not UK, sorry!) It is entirely dependent on the family that raised you. In some households it's just another word, and in others it is a curse word. In my experience the households that consider it a curse are less common.
This caught me off guard when I was roughly your age and got in trouble for it when visiting a friend. I thought it was a regular word and was scolded in front of others for it. I had no clue what was going on because nobody would tell me what word it was for a while.
I don't know of anyone that doesn't think of it as a very mild "bad word" in the US, and I've lived across most of the country. Growing up in a very permissive household can mask that, but if you look it up in the dictionary you'll find it labeled "mildly vulgar" or something similar.
Like others have said, it's a swear word but pretty mild. boot really appropriate for a classroom.
The funny thing was in my first year going to public school (intermediate) crap would actually get you in trouble lol I thought it was pretty bad for a long time because of that
Try saying "merde" next time in thick French accent.
"You're the English teacher, what word or words should I consider using instead?"
We used to use that word in year 4 back in the 90s. The teachers didn't mind, and surprisingly even my super strict parents weren't bothered by it. It's pretty mild. I wouldn't let a younger kid use it, but it's okay to hear imo.
What was the context you used it in?
I wouldn't say it's offensive or anything, its basically just a more family friendly take on 'shit'.
I think it's outrighteous that your teacher does not take organizations like CRAP seriously, mobile phones are a real threat to yougsters and society at large and we should do something about it!
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To all the Americans posting in this thread:
Despite our languages both being English, there are cultural differences. Please kindly fuck off with your opinions, I don't go to American threads and tell people what is or isn't OK to say in your country.
Don't be a jerk, there are much more effective ways of saying this.
Such as?
"It seems like there may be cultural differences between how Americans and people from the UK use the word... I know you guys want to chime in, but remember, this is a UK sub and that OP is looking for opinions from people from his country."
People don't react positively to gate keeping type behavior, particularly because this sub has no rules asking Americans not to participate. You have a valid point (that OP is here because they want to know the cultural norms in the country that they live in), so it's more effective to just make that point.
BTW, I don't know what these folks are talking about... "crap" has essentially the exact same meaning and connotation in the US as in the UK.
Don't they toss around the word cunt like it's a core subject of every sentence in the UK? And your teacher is worried about crap? Lol.
There is a big difference between formal and casual settings.
Are you at the pub with your friends? Sure, swear until you can't swear anymore.
Are you in the workplace, around kids or having dinner with your uptight famiy? Probably smart to watch your language.
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