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I literally just said that what you're talking about turns me off, and now you're telling me that you know better than I do?
Fuck being polite: go shove it up your ass.
I know I generalised but I think what I said is mostly true and I'm just as entitled as you are to put my point of view forward, sorry that I have a different opinion.
I'd like to make it clear that I'm not saying it's OK to be pushy but making a distinction about showing sexual interest that can sometimes be a grey area and a fine line to tread.
If you want to go on a hundred dates with the same person before you're OK with sexual escalation to make sure someone has pure intentions or whatever, you do you, but it's not typical and I expect that they'll move on after enough time of wondering why they're dating someone that appears frigid or un-interested in sex.
One of my best friends said "if I'm on a third date with a guy and he's not made a move, he's probably got a tiny penis". I know that's a horrible thing to say and to hear, but it's true. Most women expect men to make a move at some point and if they don't, she'll be wondering what's wrong.
There's no need for the hostility, though given the election I understand you're probably just lashing out and it's not personal. I hope you feel better soon.
No one said hundreds of dates. Hell, if we mesh well enough then it might only take a single date. However, coming up to me and being like, "hey girl, wanna fuck" is only gonna get you somewhere if I either already know (and trust) you fairly well, you have lady friends who I trust and can vouch for your character, or you're a smoking-hot, literal, honest-to-god anthropomorphic animal person. That's what I'm talking about. And no, I'm sorry, you're not a hot dragon-man. As much as I like to pretend they exist, they really don't.
You don't even have to say it out loud, if that's the vibe you're giving off then I'll get sketched out. If I feel like you just wanna fuck, then the thought that'll be going through my mind is: "can I trust what this person says, or are they only saying things to figure out how to get me to open my legs? Am I safe to put myself in their arms and let them fuck me, or should I be concerned that they won't stop if I tell them to? Will they respect my boundaries and let them shrink naturally as our trust and relationship grows, or should I be concerned that they might injure, abuse or even kill me if I say 'no'?"
*sigh* Here's the thing though, women who say shit like that really aren't worth your time. That's a red flag, dude. That's a sign that your relationship is going to be potentially based on an unstable foundation. Physical appearance is only temporary. What if you get into a bad car wreck and your penis has to be removed? A girl who's only about dick size is going to give it some time before walking away. A girl who's about you will probably be willing to come up with creative solutions to sexy problems and find ways around your lack of manhood (ever considered macguyvering a dragon dildo into a male-compatible strap-on?).
I like a guy who's willing to be vulnerable, who's willing to take his time and so on. My view is that's probably going to result in a much happier relationship than someone who judges based on penis size. Maybe it's just because I'm not in my 20s anymore and most of the horny teenage hormones have worn off at this point (not that they did me any good, but that's another story), maybe it's because I grew up with a Dad who doesn't like to talk about his feelings and was nearly impossible to read.
However, I'd much rather have a guy who's willing to talk about how he's feeling than a guy who wants to fuck on the first date. The latter isn't going to be able to give me a shoulder to cry on, but the former might (yanno, after he's done crying on mine lol; which is not a problem). The latter probably won't share my interests, but the former might.
And you know what, maybe you're right.
Maybe I'm the weirdo here, for thinking that someone who cares that much about your dick size is shallow as fuck and not worth your time. Small peepee just means there's all the more reason to get creative with sexy time.
Maybe I'm the weird one for thinking that there's a difference between a romantic relationship and "a friend you like to fuck" (aka "friends with benefits").
Maybe I'm the weirdo for thinking people need to be more chill about sex for this exact reason; because I suspect that many people think that the feeling you get from sex or lust is what love is.
It's the "I know better than you" that gets to me. Maybe you didn't mean that, if so then I apologize. There are a lot of people here, however, who seem to believe they know more about what a woman likes than women do; or they believe that a woman doing what she wants with her body is discriminatory.
For those with a bad understanding of women: women get horny and lonely too, you really think women aren't gonna struggle with this themselves? The only reason I don't think I'll personally struggle with it is because I'm only kiiinda straight lmao. I have other options. Furthermore, however, do you really believe that women don't know what they want? Maybe they just don't want you because you throw up all kinds of red flags.
Learn to be empathetic, communicative, caring and respectful. You really don't want the shallow girls who only care about dick size. They'll just dump you the moment a guy with a bigger dick comes along or, at the very least, you probably won't have a very fulfilling relationship. Sex shouldn't be the goal you're striving for, sex should be something that happens along the way; and guys who act like it's the former are a huge turn-off for me.
You make good points. You're getting the wrong end of the stick but I don't think it's worth trying to explaine myself further.