this post was submitted on 23 Aug 2024
30 points (100.0% liked)
ADHD
9622 readers
30 users here now
A casual community for people with ADHD
Values:
Acceptance, Openness, Understanding, Equality, Reciprocity.
Rules:
- No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments.
- No porn, gore, spam, or advertisements allowed.
- Do not request for donations.
- Do not link to other social media or paywalled content.
- Do not gatekeep or diagnose.
- Mark NSFW content accordingly.
- No racism, homophobia, sexism, ableism, or ageism.
- Respectful venting, including dealing with oppressive neurotypical culture, is okay.
- Discussing other neurological problems like autism, anxiety, ptsd, and brain injury are allowed.
- Discussions regarding medication are allowed as long as you are describing your own situation and not telling others what to do (only qualified medical practitioners can prescribe medication).
Encouraged:
- Funny memes.
- Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
- Questions on confusing situations.
- Seeking and sharing support.
- Engagement in our values.
Relevant Lemmy communities:
lemmy.world/c/adhd will happily promote other ND communities as long as said communities demonstrate that they share our values.
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
It's correct that mood swings and depression aren't considered a part of ADHD but both are common comorbidities (along with ASD which can be misdiagnosed as either of them) - so yeah, a lot of us deal with a whole gift basket worth of different issues. Personally, I've struggled with depression and am trying to get a formal evaluation for ASD and I suspect you'll find depression is pretty common in this community as it's a comorbidity I've seen extremely often in ADHD folks I know IRL.
It's important to make sure your doctor is aware of the different things you're experiencing and dealing with them separately - stimulant medications can mask depression symptoms until you fall off a cliff.
In terms of plans going awry, if you can, make sure your friends and acquaintances are aware of your ADHD and, especially, that sometimes you'll be flakey. If your network accepts that it'll be easier for you to flake and easier for you to recover. In my youth I was aware of how flakey I could be but flaking out on something would fill me with so much guilt that I'd end up taking much longer to recover.
Being honest with yourself and accepting the time lost to strong emotions is always going to be more healthy than struggling to try and stay "normal".
I appreciate this advice, especially talking to the doc. I could probably stand to bring it up again, it's been a while. My biggest issue for sure is the guilt and frustration that comes with my unpredictable performance, but it's less an issue of disappointing others and more of an issue of self-worth. I have things I legitimately want to do with my life, and both the skill and the opportunity to do those things. I just... can't seem to do it. I rationally know why, but that doesn't make it any less frustrating.
It's nice, at least, that it's something we talk about nowadays.