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[–] thorbot@lemmy.world 14 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (8 children)

This meme is pretty belittling to the wife in this scenario and it's kind of fucked.

Rule #1 of being in a relationship is learning to listen and empathize with your partner. Just sit, and listen quietly, and tell them "that really sucks, I am so sorry, I'm here for you" It's really that simple. Most of us are techy and leap to a solution because that's how our brains are wired but they just want someone to listen. Just listen

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 16 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (5 children)

Concurrently, constantly telling a rational problem solver problems and not letting them offer solutions ALSO takes a mental toll on the listener.

It's bidirectional. It probably will result in compassion fatigue.

[–] SquishMallow@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Fair, but let's be honest, most of the time a partner may not want to hear about a solution because they first want compassion and understanding. Be willing to listen, and your partner will talk about a solution when they are ready.

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

I can't speak to "most of the time" as I only have experience with my relationships. In my current one, problem solving and empathy both are used to great results.

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