gweiller

joined 1 year ago
[–] gweiller@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I know the problem all too well. But we have stuck together, for today at least, since over 30y. The inability to communicate, understand, be understood, is at the center of many dispares. Perhaps this is inevitable, afterall, aren't we all allone, necessarily, everybody, always? But neurotypical people eagerly succumb to the illusion of mutual understanding. Like belivers sometimes imagine a bigger common conciousness. I would need hallucinogens to feel that.

On rereading I notice that my opening sentence contradicts much of what I rumble on afterwards. Oh, well, I leave that in your capable hands.

 

I get frequently asked. "Oh simple!", I reply, "In the morning, I first try to find my phone. When I eventually find it, I realise that I miss my glasses too." After I little probing break I continue, "When I do find them, half an hour later, I can only wonder where I have put my glasses this time."
At this juncture I may receive an understanding smile from my conversation partner, assuming to know the problem all to well. But also expecting, that my obvious exaggeration is my attempt on a joke. Sadly, it is not, but I do not correct, instead I continue, "There goes the first hour of the day, after that I would go shopping, if I could find my car keys that is, but alas, they are real good at hiding, and may well rob the next hour."
By now my opposite is convinced that I am joking and rewards me with the smile that comes with the relive provided by this discovery. To late for correcting now, and so I continue, "Not a problem, as I am much better off having breakfast first."
Should I stop here? or point out the small problem, that in order to make breakfast, I quite likely have to go shopping first. Nah, don't push it, rather bring the story to and end. Too often I miss the cue to stop in time, not today. "By the time I have all these little critters together it is time for lunch anyway. The afternoon I then try to spend just as productive." I conclude, this time indeed joking, even if only slightly, and join in the smile.
Since there was so little chance for understanding, we may as well have a some fun. Bittersweet.

[–] gweiller@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Tried many things during a long life. In fact, if you are not wedded to the Microsoft platform, than google tasks, calendar, gmail, and docs can combine to a surprisingly good and rather simple solution. But recently I fell in love with obsidian. Perhaps a bit more complicated than some others, at least initially, but also much more flexible and capable. In addition, multi platform (windows, mac, linux, android, ios) and you own your data, kept on your machine, in time proof text format, rather than on some cloud server, that eventually will hold you to ransom. With other systems I have eventually run into a crippling cul-de-sac, in obsidian there always seems to be a way out. Perhaps, it is not so good for teamwork, rather for the lonesome, hyper focussed keyboard worrier. But for them, it rocks.

[–] gweiller@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Can't you ask somebody?