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So i still have depression and im constantly bored, i feel like a loser who cant do anything right. I want to let my creativeness out, make something i can share with the world or family, but im probably dreaming too big. I cant stand being depressed and bored, it stinks, everyone tells me to work out but i lack the motivation to do so.

i usually just watch youtube all day while complaining to family members that have no idea what to do about me.

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[–] rufus@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)
[–] QuietStorm@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

ive have been wanting to make games but im not sure what language or engine to learn, also it seems very daunting.

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[–] PeWu@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm positively surprised that I've not seen gym suggestion within 10 comments.

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[–] LostCause@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Reading books. I enjoy it so much because it distracts me from depression, but depending on the book, it also can be enlightening in some ways and doesnβ€˜t require me to really do much or go anywhere.

[–] nevernevermore@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

I'll second this. OP you don't even need to leave the house (altho I will advocate for a trip to library in that it will do your mental health wonders).

Reading has a low point of entry (find a book and open it), a close to zero failure rate (so long as you're base-level literate) endlessly scalable and has a tonne of bonuses. Education? Check. Escapism? Check. Free? Check (your library might even have an online service for eBooks, or you can hoist the black flag.

Also, if socialising is tough for you, being well-read will give you more to talk, make you more interesting, and my favourite? Join a book club! You can engage with people over a shared interest.

[–] sibloure@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Backyard birdwatching? Collect recipes like on Pinterest that look good and if you feel like it later you'll have some good recipes to try making?

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[–] Dyson@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Meditation.

It's been shown to be a very effective remedy for depression. It's also a useful tool for getting in control of your mind. If you meditate regularly, you'll find more enjoyment in the things you're already doing.

Also, since it's just you and your thoughts, you may discover something you're interested in and find a hobby that way.

[–] kekvrose@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 year ago (6 children)

Photography - added benefit is that you will usually go out for this

Music - an instrument is good

Drawing/Painting

Programming (hit or miss, I found learning unity was fun)

Video making - recording video games playthroughs, cooking, and so on.

Finally, one that usually everyone probably also may mention - Therapy - not a hobby but having to be able to talk about it is often good

This is of course not an exhaustive list - but it depends on what your interests are. Hope this is a good pointer to what you're looking for.

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[–] shyguyblue@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

If you're looking for something you can do while watching YouTube, origami. It lets you ease into a hobby, without completely taking away your vice.

Here's some i made yesterday while watching schadenfreude vids about the Netflix Cowboy Bebop disaster... rainbow flowers

[–] 20watts@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Drawing of course 😁! I think it would help to get your emotions out.

[–] renrenPDX@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Right now I’m trying chess. I absolutely suck at it, but I can play it on demand at any time online and getting better at it. Don’t really play against live opponents often, but rather play bots or solve puzzles mostly. It helps get the mind to think about something else and makes me want to learn due to how bad I was initially. Still bad, just less so.

[–] jlcrawf@social.librem.one 2 points 1 year ago

@QuietStorm
Group activities. People who are depressed should endeavor to be around people even if it is not what they want. Loneliness in a depressed person will turn to self loathing. Playing card games and board games with friends is a great activity because it forces you to be socially active and think about something other than what is depressing you.

[–] Dadifer@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

Therapy is the best hobby.

[–] techgearwhips@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Rollerskating. I started rollerskating last year. Not only is it fun... But it's also great cardio. I was overweight and lost 50 pounds. I don't snore anymore. I don't have high blood pressure anymore. And it's stimulating mentally every time you learn a new move. Not to mention you meet some great people with cool vibes.

[–] P1r4nha@feddit.de 1 points 1 year ago

Dancing. There were dark times in my life where the dance practice was the highlight of the week. You get to know people too and when you choose a style of music you like it's almost impossible to feel bad. I know of people I met there who need it as well to stay positive.

Also it's physical and mental exercise in one. Perfect.

[–] eeltech@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Ride a bike. You get exercise, sunlight, cheap transportation, thrills/adventure, and good feelings, it's a win win

And if possible, find a local social bicycling group near you. Adds even more benefits when you are riding with a group

[–] Hazdaz@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Go for a bike ride.

If you can afford it, I highly recommend getting an ebike. It can open up a larger range where you can travel if you aren't in the best of shape.

[–] chaples55@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago
[–] Fedop@slrpnk.net 1 points 1 year ago

Honestly winemaking and brewing are great for depression. Can't find the willpower to take care of it for two weeks? That's fine! It's just aging, you can do the next step whenever you feel like it. And then you get to share and everyone is pressured to say nice things, it's great.

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