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how's your week going, Beehaw (beehaw.org)
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hello Beehaw, it's a sleepy morning--and i did not get very much sleep. luckily i have no social priorities so this is not a big deal. currently reading a number of books after completely crashing out of doing that for the entire month of June. i think i can get about 3 in before the end of the month, we'll see

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[โ€“] Piers@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

She says I should go regardless

Then you should go. No doubt there have been or will be situations where you carry a heavier share of the load between you to support her needs. Equal partnership does not require things to be exactly 50/50 at all times in order to be fair and for both partners to feel supported. It's also important to respect your partner's own autonomous ability to make decisions about what they want for themselves and to express those choices. If they tell you they want to support you in some way that is important to you, you should take them at their word.

[โ€“] noeontheend@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

Well said and agreed. It felt awkward because next week was supposed to be a lighter period for me at work after some sustained intensity, while she's ramping up for a big project due at the end of the month. So all along, we'd planned for me to shoulder more of the packing and last minute planning. I just wanted to make sure that she knew that I appreciated how much extra work I was passing on to her, and to express that I needed to find ways to make it up to her.

However, late last night I found out that the choir's original plan worked out and they don't need me to go at all. So...yeah.