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I've definitely turned into the paranoid nutcase within my friend group in recent years, I hate that everything is "smart" nowadays requiring an app/internet connection & account, just to do basic things that didn't require any of that before.

What's some things currently making you ramble like an old man?

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[–] severien@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)
  • generation hate, ageism, collective guilt - it's getting normal to blame a whole generation (typically boomers) for all the wrong things in this world.
  • websites requiring login to see content which isn't anything privacy related - twitter, quora, instagram ...
  • services which require a smartphone app and don't provide a website version.
  • it's been more than ten years now, but the fragmentation among messaging services. I mean, before that, everybody used ICQ which was a proprietary platform as well, but you had all these different clients and the platform was therefore quite open. Not anymore. I dislike RCS as a possible solution, because it's carrier based and tied to your phone number.
[–] phillaholic@lemm.ee 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

It’s not difficult to blame the boomers. They grew up with the countries best safety net and support and then proceeded to pull up the ladder after them.

And it’s only when they complain about younger people when it really comes up.

[–] severien@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

They grew up with the countries best safety net and support and then proceeded to pull up the ladder after them.

Well, my parents didn't have any such benefits (and generally had much harder life than my generation), and didn't pull any ladder, yet they are "guilty" by the virtue of being born in the wrong years.

Doesn't seem right to me.

And it’s only when they complain about younger people when it really comes up.

Nah, it comes up all the time on social media on its own.

[–] phillaholic@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What’s their behavior like now? Comparing that kids have it too easy? Advocating for not improving things because they had it tougher? If no, they aren’t the problem and shouldn’t feel it’s directed to them.

[–] severien@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

If no, they aren’t the problem and shouldn’t feel it’s directed to them.

"boomers" is a name of a generation, not of political affiliation or attitude to youngsters. People don't choose their year of birth.

It's not much different from e.g. gender or racial stereotyping and what you're saying is pretty similar to "if you're not lazy, don't feel offended, you can think of yourself as honorary white".

[–] phillaholic@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's more a mindset than a generation. Someone that just happens to have been born during those years that possess none of those traits is not going to be criticized. Millennials and Gen Z get lumped together on certain topics too, and it doesn't really matter the year they were born but the opinion they are backing.

[–] severien@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Rewrite this with "black" instead of "boomer" and see how it looks like.

[–] TheWoozy@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What's your version of fox news? Somethings crammed a bunch of bigoted stereotypes into your brain.

[–] phillaholic@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

How could you possibly construe "shouldn't feel it's directed to them" into bigoted stereotypes? You shouldn't feel any allegiance to a stereotype, so if you don't have those qualities why are you defending those that do?

[–] TokenBoomer@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That is true. But don’t forget the boomers tried to overthrow the establishment/capitalism and were literally beaten. Civil rights, feminism were the boomers. They tried to change the system at the ‘68 Democratic convention and were hosed and beaten. Yes, they gave up and sold out, but at least a large portion of counter culture hippies tried. A lot of us would do it again, when the time is right.

[–] phillaholic@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

It's not until the 80s where it became a large problem. At that point you have some early Gen X involved. The mindset is all the same. Greed. I don't think the Hippies lost as much as they are remembered far better or larger than they actually were.

[–] TheWoozy@lemmy.world -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] phillaholic@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Pick up any book written on US History Post World War 2 and continue through at least the 1980s.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean, boomers have been blaming us millennials for being the downfall of society since I was in high school... so yeah, if we're gonna start on who started that generational gap

[–] severien@lemmy.world -3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

boomers have been blaming us millennials

Which boomers? All of them? I don't think so...

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Looking at your other comments it's clear you are taking comments like boomers personally against your parents. You shouldn't. When we make fun or blame them it's not one person's actions, but society allowing those actions to culminate in how it's turned out.

It's how our parents said they wanted the best for us, but then the generation as a whole has voted time and time against things that we desperately need. Housing issues, cost of living, wage gaps, cost of college, things that the generation did take advantage of. And hey, it's not bad that they got to take advantage of it, but it's the "pulling the ladder up" after them. Doing things like using social security while trying to defund unemployment.

So no, of course it's not all of them, and it may not be your parents, but it's the people who have benefited from programs that now want to remove those programs. That's why we get mad when they say we're being too loud, or complaining - it's because we just wanted the same deal they got.

My mom grew up poor too, and she has been on unemployment more than once trying to support us. She's a huge proponent of these systems being continued for the next generation. That's what parents should be doing, trying to give their kids even more protections, not trying to take them away

[–] severien@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Looking at your other comments it’s clear you are taking comments like boomers personally against your parents. You shouldn’t.

They were boomers, and boomers are all these negative stereotypes, so how not to take it personally?

You say something like "women can't drive, but don't take it personally if you're a good female driver". Honestly I can't fathom how people can't see that it might be wrong to negatively stereotype groups of the population by something they did not choose. We've grown to recognise sexism, racism etc. but apparently we're still in the 1950s of ageism.

She’s a huge proponent of these systems being continued for the next generation.

Too bad she's a boomer, though.