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What's a skill that's taken for granted where you live, but is often missing in people moving there from abroad? (kyu.de)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by aard@kyu.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I was thinking about that when I was dropping my 6 year old off at some hobbies earlier - it's pretty much expected to have learned how to ride a bicycle before starting school, and it massively expands the area you can go to by yourself. When she went to school by bicycle she can easily make a detour via a shop to spend some pocket money before coming home, while by foot that'd be rather time consuming.

Quite a lot of friends from outside of Europe either can't ride a bicycle, or were learning it as adult after moving here, though.

edit: the high number of replies mentioning "swimming" made me realize that I had that filed as a basic skill pretty much everybody has - probably due to swimming lessons being a mandatory part of school education here.

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[–] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Very good. People give odd looks about anything that doesn't fit their little bubble world, so just ignore them. :)

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If that was easy, I'd probably know how. Maybe I don't know how because I'm not 25 yet lol

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah absolutely. I learned at 35. Maybe you learn faster than me. :)

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What sparked the change?

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Honestly I was just so concerned all the time about what others were thinking, to the degree that i got scared of doing anything even remotely outside the box.

It changed when I got tired of feeling that way every single day. I just had enough of that feeling you know? It's a bit like just getting sick of your own emotions and you just feel this need to escape that emotion.

I think some people drink to kill that feeling. But I'm not a big drinker. Mother was alcoholic and it wrecked everything completely. I knew there must be a better way.

I think it starts with realizing that other people are not better then you. You need to stop apologizing for who you are and just realize that you are fine. And also to like yourself for something. Maybe you are just kinder then others. Whatever it is, start focusing on that and realize you are good enough and you don't have to apologize for existing in this world.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

I mean, that is perhaps a part of my situation. It's something that fluctuates as to whether it's on anyone's mind or not. I wish it was a factor nobody had to partake in. It's painfully pervasive though.